Orient yourself towards them in love

• John 13:34–35: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you.” By this love, people will know you’re his disciples.
• 1 John 4:7–12, 19: “Love one another, for love is from God… We love because he first loved us.”

Love makes the life change possible

• 1 John 4:18: “Perfect love casts out fear.” People can’t change while they’re afraid of you. Love lowers their defenses.
• John 8:1–11: Jesus tells the woman caught in adultery, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more.” He shows mercy first and calls for change second.

“That I (God) am convicting them towards”

• John 16:8: The Holy Spirit “will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment.” Convicting people is God’s job, and loving them is ours.

“Then you can speak truth”

• John 1:14, 17: Jesus came “full of grace and truth,” with grace named first.
• 2 John 1–3 and 3 John 1: John writes “whom I love in truth” and “grace, mercy, and peace… in truth and love.”